ROSE, also known as, Raising Our Self Esteem began with a simple belief: the way we see ourselves is shaped by more than what happens inside of us. Our relationships, environments, opportunities, communities, and the stories we inherit all leave an imprint on the lens we use navigate our world. More importantly, who we believe we are allowed to become.
The earliest version of ROSE began in 2015 as the R.O.S.E. Project, a youth after school program I created to help children build self-esteem, confidence, and a stronger belief in their own possibilities.
Years later, after a career spanning education, workforce development, nonprofit leadership, and mental health, I found myself returning to the same question in different forms:
What helps people believe that more is possible for their lives, and for themselves?
That question became ROSE as it exists today.
ROSE is a space for psychoeducation, reflection, conversation, creativity, and community. Through workshops, speaking, collaborations, events, and shared resources, we explore identity, relationships, self-worth, life transitions, and the environments that shape us.
We are interested not only in what people have been through, but in what they are making of it, what they want to carry forward, and who they are still becoming in response to what they have been up against.
Because growth is not easy. Our society prioritizes the finality of the self as a product to be evaluted. What if we were relational processes everchanging? In that process, self-discovery can feel isolating. Remembering can feel paralyzing. Living life may not be easy, but it can look like finally having the safety and community to express what was already there, and a landscape to shape new possibilty.
Safety shapes change. I want people to have fun becoming in that safety.
Meet Chantel Rose Mesta
I’m Chantel Rose Mesta, M.A, AMFT #160881
I love my work as a Marriage and Family Therapist Associate, educator, community builder, program developer, and founder of ROSE.
My work has never fit neatly into one box.
Before entering the mental health field, much of my professional life was rooted in workforce development, education, nonprofit programming, career development, and community-based work. I spent years helping people navigate employment, education, professional identity, and access to opportunity.
That experience continues to shape how I understand people and the relationships I hope to nurture.
I have seen how a job can influence someone's dignity. I grew up in an environment that can change the way a person sees themselves. I have felt how my body responds in relationships that can either expand or shrink our sense of possibility. Systems, culture, race, gender, health, family, and access to opportunity become part of the stories we carry about who we are.
My clinical training gave me another language for questions I had already been asking throughout my life.
Today, my professional work includes supporting individuals, couples, and families through a narrative, relational, systemic, and strengths-based lens. I am particularly interested in identity, relationships, life transitions, trauma, and the social environments that influence how people understand themselves and one another.
ROSE brings these worlds together a public-facing space where education, community, creativity, and meaningful conversation can help people become more curious about themselves and each other.
And there is lived experience underneath all of it.
I know what it means to have an identity shaped by achievement, responsibility, work, relationships, expectations, transition, and the pressure to figure out what comes next. I also know the experience of discovering that becoming doesn't happen in a straight line.
That is part of why I care so deeply about creating spaces where people don't have to arrive as finished versions of themselves.
You are allowed to still be becoming.
I earned my Master of Arts in Marital and Family Therapy from Alliant International University’s California School of Professional Psychology and currently work as a Registered California Associate Marriage and Family Therapist.
My professional background spans mental health, workforce development, nonprofit leadership, program management, education, career development, training, and community engagement.
My clinical and educational interests draw from Narrative Therapy, relational and systemic approaches, DBT-informed practices, and nervous-system-informed perspectives. Across these areas, I remain especially interested in the relationship between identity, environment, relationships, power, and possibility.
Before transitioning more fully into mental health, I worked extensively in workforce and career development, including programming designed to connect diverse job seekers, students, veterans, and community members with education and professional opportunities.
That multidisciplinary background continues to influence ROSE's approach: well-being does not exist separately from the environments in which people live, love, learn, and work.
Chantel's professional, academic, and community involvement has included:
Professional Member, American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)
Published contributor, Family Therapy Magazine
Advisory Board involvement with the San Diego International Birthing Project
Advisory Board involvement with Watering Hope
Former Student Government Association Chairperson, Alliant International University – San Diego
Chair Lead, 2024 Couple & Family Therapy Student-Led Conference
Community and workforce-development partnerships across the San Diego region
Creator of the original R.O.S.E. Project, established in 2015
Her published work has contributed to conversations about gender, power, systemic oppression, therapeutic neutrality, clinician identity, and Marriage and Family Therapy education.
My current research interests are grounded in curiosity about how our experiences shape the ways we relate, and how relationships can create new experiences of ourselves.
I am particularly interested in three evolving areas: couples, trauma, and relational ethics.
With couples, I am curious about what happens between two people beyond communication skills alone. How do individual histories, identities, expectations, environments, and protective patterns meet inside of a relationship? What allows couples to create ways of relating that feel safer, more responsive, and more aligned with who they are becoming?
With trauma, my curiosity centers on how experiences of survival influence identity and relationships without reducing people to what they have survived. I am interested in the stories people develop about themselves, the adaptations that once helped them navigate difficult environments, and what happens when those adaptations enter new relationships and contexts.
And with relational ethics, I am increasingly curious about a larger question:
What actually shapes the way we relate?
I want to explore relationships as environments that can reinforce old stories, invite new ones, shape our nervous systems, and influence what feels possible for us individually and collectively.
These interests continue to bring me toward Narrative Therapy, relational and systemic thinking, and relational neuroscience, while leaving room for my ideas to evolve as I continue learning, researching, practicing, and asking better questions.
I am less interested in arriving at one definitive explanation for relationships and more interested in understanding their complexity:
How are we shaped by the relationships we experience, and how might we become different through the relationships we intentionally create?